Mark 12:30-31 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength….., love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these.
Jeremiah 31:3 You have loved me with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness.
Every morning when I wake up I look forward with excitement to sitting in front of the big picture window in my living room, gazing at the amazing view and talking to my best friend. He loves me unconditionally with an everlasting love. I can tell Him my greatest dreams and He cheers me on. I can tell Him my deepest hurts and He comforts me. He speaks to my heart and my trust in Him grows daily. I am able to love Him because He first loved me. His love is agape love. It’s a perfect love.
So how are we humans at this relationship thing? Hm….not so perfect.
Relationships are the best and worst part of life. They bring us the greatest joys but also our deepest sorrows. They can take us to the highest mountaintops and the deepest valleys. We can feel loved and understood one minute and feel the sting of betrayal the next. It’s a topsy-turvy roller coaster ride of emotions. I know a whole bunch of people who love amusement park roller coasters but I don’t know a soul who wants to take a ride on the emotional kind.
Sharing our lives with others is risky, but God calls us to take the risks and make relationships our top priority. So why can’t we seem to love like God loves?
James 4:1-2 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from the battles within you? You want something but you don’t get it….
There are days when I feel like I should just be a hermit. A recluse. Then no one can hurt me and I can’t hurt anyone else. If I stay in my little cocoon, I won’t be able to slip up and say the wrong thing (sticking my foot in my mouth). Do you ever feel that way?
I don’t mean to do these things. Most of the time I’m not even aware that I’ve messed up. However, like everyone else I’m not always so innocent either. I’m human. I’m selfish. And I’m flawed. But I’m not using that as an excuse. Sometimes I’m the one overly sensitive ( hormonal women can be that way)!
So what’s the solution? Well it’s not to seclude our self. We’re called to love God with all our heart and love our neighbor as we love ourselves. I ask God daily to help me see others the way He sees them that I may love them the way He loves them. I hope I’m getting better at it, God willing.
When you think someone has hurt you, give them a break. Maybe they were having a bad day (bad month, or for that matter, a bad year). A person who wounds is most likely wounded themselves. Don’t take it personally. And that takes some practice. Most of us are too self absorbed and it never shows more than when we get our feelings hurt too easily. Let me be the first to admit that.
We need to start with a right relationship with God. As you draw close to Him, He will draw close to you. Let His words become your words. Tell him what’s in your heart and on your mind. He knows what you’re thinking anyway. He just wants to hear it from you.
|Life Group at Chets Creek|
We need community. We need each other. Be a risk taker. Be authentic. Share your life. The worries, the hurts, your successes and failures. Are we going to mess up? Will it be painful sometimes? You betcha! We are called to love one another even when it hurts!
Bottom line: We need relationships…the good, the bad…and the ugly.
Spend a little more time getting to know the Lord this week. Read your Bible. Pray. Then listen for Him to speak to your heart.
Reach out to someone and make a new friend. Share a part of yourself. Someone will be better for it….. and that someone just might be YOU!
|Me and Bonnie|