It’s the end of the year and there are a few important thoughts I want to leave you to ponder—a few things I hope you’ll at least think of in the coming year, if you haven’t already.
The new year generally challenges us to change directions. For this new year I’m challenging you to leave directions.
Many of you know my mom went home to be with the Lord a few weeks ago. God was merciful and swift in her departure from this earth. However, there were a couple of days where my family, under difficult circumstances, had to make emotional decisions.
Doctors asked us if Mom had a living will or advanced directives.
The answer was yes, no,… well, sort of. We had talked about them plenty over the years but she never wrote them down.
She teased us in shall we say, a rather stern way, to never, e-v-e-r put her in a nursing home. And she told us time and time again she didn’t want to be resuscitated, or intubated, and she never wanted to live with a feeding tube.
But somehow the writing-them-down part never happened.
Most people, me included, don’t really want to talk about this stuff, wills and death and such. In some weird kind of way it feels like if we think about it, talk about it, write it out, it will make these awful, scary, said events happen… sooner.
I admit this whole thought process is clearly silly and irrational but I find myself saying I should write down my advanced directives but, I don’t.
So if you’re anything like me, please hear what I’m about to say.
Love’s perfection is complete with direction.
God didn’t leave us on this earth without a map, without guidance. He showed us how to live our day-to-day through HIs written Word.
In perfect love, God sent His Son not only to save us but to teach us, and left his Word and Spirit to remind us how to conduct our lives. There’s not a question we can ask about how to manage ourselves in this world where God has not provided an answer.
And 2 Timothy 3:16 says, “All Scripture is God breathed and is useful for teaching. rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be throughly equipped for every good work.” (NIV)
God gave us an example to follow and if we want to love like God loves, we should do the same for our families and leave them with guidelines for the time when we’re unable to make the hard decisions.
We may think we know what a loved one wants, but I’ll have to tell you, when things get dicey, emotions run high, and that’s when we start second guessing what we’ve known to be true.
That is, unless the ill family member left a specific plan.
With a plan there’s no question, no guessing, no guilt.
You just follow it.
So here’s my challenge for all of us this new year. As morbid as it may sound, think of different scenarios, conditions you might find yourself in, percentages you might want considered and write them all down in front of a couple of witnesses or have your directive signed by a notary.
Love your family to perfection by leaving your direction.
God gives us wise words to follow.
Leave wise words for your family in 2016.
Psalm 119:89-96 from the Message says, “Your word and truth are as dependable as ever; that’s what you ordered—you set the earth going. If your revelation hadn’t delighted me so, I would have given up when the hard times came. But I’ll never forget the advice you gave me; you saved my life with those wise words…”