Grafting – to take a bud of a plant and insert it into a stem of another where it continues to grow and become a part of the parent plant.
I’m a people watcher. Not in a creepy kind of way but in a “I want to learn something” way.
I like watching people-how they interact with each other and their families. I learn to better respond to situations just by being attentive to the behavior of those around me. (“Uh, that didn’t work our so well for her. I don’t think I’ll echo those sentiments.”)
One thing I’ve noticed since becoming an in-law is, when a family takes in a new son or daughter by way of marriage, in the beginning they (usually) welcome them with open arms.
That is until… a condition pops up.
Like the condition of hurting their kid.
And then the fighting gloves go on and all bets are off.
Depending on the degree of encroachment, the family may think, gosh, that new son or daughter, they just didn’t take to us so well. And when that happens, the new family member may not get treated so much like family anymore. They may end up being the butt of gossip, ignored or worse case scenario, cast out of the family.
We humans are a fickle bunch aren’t we? I know intentions are usually good but most of the time our love is a conditional thing. And in the end, our actions speak louder than our words ever do.
Maybe it’s, the spirit is willing and the flesh is weak, thing. I don’t know.
But what I do know is, I want to do better than that. I want to do things God’s way.
When we become believers, God welcomes us into His family as His children. “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called the children of God. And that is what we are!” (1 John 3:1) NIV
But wait, He doesn’t just stop there, He goes a step further and grafts us into His family tree, giving us a forever place in His life with all the good stuff that goes with it. Romans 11;17 says, …”And you Gentiles, (Gentiles meaning all who are not Jewish) who were branches from a wild olive tree have been grafted in. So now you also receive the blessing God has promised Abraham and his children…” (MSG)
There is a ginormous difference between the way we accept each other and the way God does.
Grafting us in is like surgically implanting us. It’s not conditional, and it’s irrevocable. We become a tattoo on His heart. Not even when we hurt His Son, will He walk away. Instead He pursues us relentlessly.
When my boys got married, David and I made a decision to welcome our new daughters into the family as if they were are very own. Our idea was to take God’s idea, and graft them in. In this way they would unconditionally, forever be part of the family. We wanted them to always feel loved no matter what.
My prayer for people watchers like me? That we learn more than just a better response. My prayer is, we learn to love like God does, without hesitations, conditions, and exceptions. Seeing each other in a new way, through the lens of God’s eyes and the grace of His heart.