The other day while out to eat we saw our friend’s son. He was working as a waiter at the restaurant. We had not seen him in a couple of years.
He looked great, very professional, friendly and polite.
We were shocked!
You see from listening to his mom and dad we thought he was anti-social, couldn’t hold down a job and had a debilitating disease.
His parents were so close to his situation, they couldn’t see him the way others do. All they could see were his problems. It’s like getting too close to a piece of art, all you see is a mess. If you back away you see a beautiful masterpiece.
When our kids were young, people told us all the time how great they were while we were usually reeling over their last escapade (setting fire to the woods while making a war video for school, or leaving coke bombs at front doors). Believe me those were just two of the minor infractions.
But looking back they were good kids.
When we get as close to a situation we over analyze.
The best thing we can do for our kids is… take a step back, make a little space, breathe in deeply, and exhale. Ahhhh.
Then try to envision the masterpiece everyone else knows as your kid.